Boyfriends, husbands… they’re not psychic, as much as we might wish they were. So, when an anniversary or birthday is coming up, it’s often wise to drop as many hints as possible about what you want – otherwise you could end up with something weird (and not so wonderful) that you have no need or use for. Or worse, you might end up with nothing at all. These tips on how to leave hints for your other half should net you exactly what you want, every time.
Magazines are supremely useful weapons in the fight against not getting what you really want from your partner. You don’t even have to read them – and neither does he – as the pictures should be enough information. One tactic is to leave the mag open on the right page where he is definitely going to see it. Perhaps even walk by and exclaim about how lovely the bag/purse/shoes are. Another way to use a magazine to get what you want is to sit and flick through it together. If this is unusual behavior, all the better – your partner will take more notice. Don’t forget to comment on the things you like the look of!
Much like a magazine, only with far more choice, the internet can do your hinting for you. Leave your browser open on a specific page showing women’s petite shoes, or a gorgeous necklace, or a beautiful dress, or whatever else it is that you might like to receive as a gift. Leave the device where he is sure to see it, and your hint will have been dropped. Even if he closes the tab without really looking, you’ll have the excuse to (gently) reprimand him for doing so when you were in the middle of admiring the lovely things… Pull the page back up in front of him and point out what it was you were looking at. Perfect.
If you don’t like the idea of trying to drop a hint yourself, or you think you’d be too subtle, another option is to speak to your partner’s friends. If you get on well with them, and have their contact details, a quick text or Facebook message is all that is needed. Tell the friend what it is you’d like your partner to get you, and ask them to mention it. They don’t need to say that the idea came from you, of course, it just needs to come up in conversation, which should be easy enough if they hang out together a lot and know one another’s business.
Using your own friends can be as subtle as pointing something out in a shop window, online, or in a magazine, and saying that your friend just received it from their wonderful partner. Make sure to mention how lucky your friend is for receiving such a thoughtful gift. Men do tend to be rather competitive, and if they know that someone in your social circle – perhaps even someone they know too – has done well in the gift stakes, they might up their game to match or exceed. If that’s too subtle, just ask your friend to mention something to your partner – this can often work pretty well.
This tactic is trickier than most, but it can be a lot of fun and it is always worth a try. Using the subconscious to push someone towards buying something is what advertisers have been doing for centuries, so why not try it yourself? If the product that you want has a theme tune associated with it, try humming it when you’re around your partner – they’ll pick up on it, whether they know that they’re doing it or not, and when they hear it on the advertisement, they will associate that product with you. They might even buy it for you!
Is He Listening?
There is no point in hinting to anyone about anything if they’re not really paying attention. It’s important to make sure that your partner is listening to you, and concentrating on what you’re saying. Otherwise, you run the risk of them not really hearing your words, and you may think you’ve hinted well, when in fact nothing sunk in at all.
No matter which tactic you’re thinking of using – or even if you’re planning to use all of them in some way – begin hinting early. You don’t want to run the risk of him already buying something because the ideas came too late. As soon as you see something you like, start to let him know about it. That way, even if you’re hinting for Christmas and it’s June, there will be plenty of time for your man to get it right. Hinting is all about planting a seed in your partner’s mind – and the earlier you begin the planting, the more fully formed that idea will be when it’s time to get it bought. Plus, because you’re starting early, it won’t even seem like a hint, which makes it even easier.
You Could Just Ask…
Of course, you could just ask your boyfriend for something. You could plainly and baldly state that this thing or that thing is exactly what you want, and ask them to get it for you for your birthday, for Valentine’s Day, for your anniversary, or whatever the occasion happens to be. Only… where’s the fun in that?
Firstly, you’ll know exactly what you’re getting, and that small element of surprise (and delight that he actually got you something you wanted, and that your hinting really worked) will be gone. So, although you’ll have what you asked for, you’ll be missing out on the enjoyment of opening the gift and being pleased with the discovery. Secondly, giving is just as much fun as receiving, and giving something that has been specifically asked for is just that little bit less enjoyable than giving something that is more of a surprise. So, even if you are hinting, your partner needs to think it was all his idea for the fun element to be present.